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You Really Should ~ January 2017

YOU REALLY SHOULD ~ or should you really?

So how are the first few days or weeks of 2017 going for you? Did you succumb to making any New Year Resolutions, I say succumb because there is always is an air of expectation in the New Year that you will make one or even two resolutions.   I don’t think I’ve ever got to the end of January without someone asking “What’s your New Year Resolution?”

In the past I have made resolutions without much reflection on the previous year, they were generally made on snap decisions generally based on how I thought I should be or should look.  Have you noticed that quite a few resolutions are based on denying yourself of something or pushing yourself into doing something that you think you should, all because you believe you shouldn’t be like this/that, or shouldn’t have this/that?

That “SHOULD” word pops up quite often doesn’t it? Its sneaky little blighter, it slips into conversation without you even realising.  The word “should” is like a stick to hit yourself over the head with…come on giddy up get going.  It’s like telling yourself off for no reason really, after all a “should” is telling you that you are not good enough as you are or what you have been doing is wrong.  A “should” is actually saying that you don’t really want to do whatever that “should” is.   It’s as if there has been a previous recognition of a need for change which has been quietly ignored.   A “should” is subtly pointing out that at this moment in time; you are not ready to make that change.

I have found that anything based on a “SHOULD” is not “GOOD!”

Resolutions based on a “should” can become a struggle and you can begin to resent doing the said “should”.  “Should” creates an energetic resistance which can become like a boulder to be shoved rather than something to enjoy…. Enough already!

When we come from the view-point of not giving to ourselves our mind and bodies tend to put up a fight and it eventually becomes a struggle, and a battle that we generally lose.  I can recall countless times I have started a resolution from the basis of a “should” only for it to flounder later because deep down, my heart wasn’t in it, it wasn’t really me.  In fact the only resolution which one year stayed with me was when I decided to be kinder to myself and put myself first. I’ve got to say that year was much happier and easier, it lasted because I was giving something back to myself.

I believe more can be achieved especially when relating to New Year Resolutions if we place the emphasis on how we can gently nurture ourselves and what we can do for our own wellbeing in a positive way, rather than coming from a view-point of denying ourselves of something.  When all said and done there’s a great difference between I really should go to the gym (I’m not fit enough, I’m not slim enough, look good enough) to I really fancy trying that, giving it a go (it would be a hoot, I’d enjoy it, it’s a bit of me time, I’ll feel great) and anyhow what’s a few wobbles between friends.

A bit of sweet talk to yourself does no harm, you and your body will undoubtedly respond more positively in the long run.  In a more natural way and in due course the opportunity will arrive to let go of those things that no longer serve you, so come on lets tell that “SHOULD” to just shove off and take it’s stick with it, at least then, when and if you do decide to start something it will have the chance of becoming a healthy habit and not a passing fad.

As for myself I no longer make New Year Resolutions, nowadays I tend to reflect on the year gone by and ask what would I welcome with open arms again, what I would run a mile from, what has made me feel at ease with myself, what have I enjoyed and most of all what have I learned.

It’s something I should have done years ago, oops… did I say “should”

If you have made any New Year Resolutions the crystal below for January is one which will pull out the stops to help and support you…read on.



Black Onyx a crystal for January

This crystal can support you in making wise decisions and when those decisions are made it has the ability to support you with a steady supply of stamina.  It is a crystal which imparts self-control and enhances your own personal strength and will, so this is a stone which is ideal in supporting you in any New Year Resolutions which may have been made.

Black Onyx helps you to recognise your own unique strengths and to take command of your own future, offering assurance ands self-confidence whilst doing so.  It can be a secretive crystal helping you to keep your plans to yourself while you pursue them alone, quietly but surely.  It is a stone that will sustain you during difficult times whether under physical or mental stress, bringing with it the knowledge of any lesson to be learned.



This month’s birthstone for Capricorn is Garnet, if you missed the information earlier on the Wisdom of Wellbeing Facebook page and would like to take a look then just click on the picture to be taken there.

Garnet a crystal for Capricorn


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So in the meantime, enjoy what January has to offer and good luck with any resolutions that you may have made.  Wishing you multitudes of Crystal Rays and Happy Days,